Mahen’s Alphabet of Emotional Intelligence – K

The Next Letter

We started off the year sharing my father’s work, an alphabet he was working on at the time of his passing. At the end of 2024, we found his complete work and are releasing each letter throughout the year. This week, we share the next letter.

 

K – KNOW.  Learn to KNOW. Spread love and positivity wherever you go.

During a recent coaching session, I found myself overwhelmed by the myriad of obligations in my life. You know how it is—there’s always something to do. I could hear myself saying, “I have to do this, and I have to do that, and this, and that…” I was clearly in “stress mode.” Not a pretty sight.

Marsha, my wise and wonderful coach, gently interrupted my frantic monologue. In her calm, reassuring voice, she asked, “Beth, instead of focusing on what you HAVE to do, what is it that you KNOW to do?”

That question was a revelation. It reminded me why we have coaches. It got me thinking: What do I KNOW to do? When we tap into our inner knowledge, aren’t we empowering ourselves to be truly authentic? Aren’t we, in essence, letting our conscience be our guide?

Consider this shift in perspective:

I “have” to work late vs.  I “know” to go home and be with my family.

I “have” to respond to win vs. I “know” to respond with compassion.

I “have” to buy a new outfit vs. I “know” the clothes I have are fine.

I “have” to maintain a perfect house vs. I “know” I should play with my kids.

I “have” to make an impression vs. I “know” I am enough already.

Operating from a place of “have to” dishonors that inner voice whispering, “Listen to me—I know what’s best for you.” When we focus on the “have to’s,” we chase external validation and neglect our true selves.

By doing what we “know” to do, we express our authentic selves and let our intuition guide us. This approach enriches our lives and shapes our future in meaningful ways.

Next time you find yourself overwhelmed, take a moment to get quiet and ask, “What is it that I KNOW to do here?” The answer will reveal your true priorities and guide you towards them. Follow your heart!

I “have” to do it all myself vs. I “know” I need to delegate.

Embrace what we know and let it lead us to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Stay Tuned for Letter L